I connected with someone at my company yesterday as part of a peer networking program that we’re trying in 2024. I found it fun and refreshing to have a conversation with someone in my company world but has a very different remit. We connected on a few things: coaching, team building, values are a few. At the end, he asked an interesting question which was, “when you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?”
I recently read a book that argues against asking this question to kids since it sets expectations and boxes them in. I love that. But as an adult, I also enjoy thinking back on the question.
I wanted to play professional hockey. When I was 5, I went to my first NHL game. Not in Boston but in Hartford, CT where the Whalers played. They happened to be playing the Bruins that day. My dad took me, and he knew someone who worked for the Whalers so we got to go to the locker room for autographs. That was my intro to the NHL. From there, I played the sport for about 20 years. I loved playing street hockey and mini hockey in the basement as a kid. Then when I became a teenager, I started to put more serious time in with coaches one on one. In high school it helped me build discipline that serves me today.
The NHL dream never faded but of course was less and less a reality over time in high school. I learned about division III athletics from a family friend. I was very interested in being able to play competitively but also pursuing academics and having more of a social experience.
That’s what I got to do at Skidmore College. I couldn’t have been happier with that decision. As the academic pursuit led me to what I do today for work.
The NHL dream lives on. I gave up hockey for 10 years after college for a few reasons but one had to do with the dream never becoming a reality. It hurt a bit for sure. I started playing again and am loving it. Just needed a little time away after it being such an important part of my life for 10 years.
I think the value of this question in part lies in how you are applying that dream of what you wanted to be to your life today. Is it that you do the activity tied to that professional to still scratch the itch? Do you exhibit qualities and characteristics needed for that profession somewhere else in life? Are you fully at peace with that professional dream fading and don’t care at all? That is okay too.