Transition is a common process most of us face, and it comes in many different forms:
- Starting a new job
- Moving to a new city
- Traveling for work
- Getting promoted
- Moving to a new home
- Getting married
Transitions drive us away from the people, places, or situations we are used to, toward new people, places, or situations we have never experienced. Because transitions tend to evoke uncomfortable feelings, we are occasionally quick to move onto either something new or back to something more comfortable. But moving on from something too early can mean giving up valuable future learning experiences.
The amount of time in the transition phase varies across individuals and circumstances. Some of us moved into college and didn’t look back after the first day, yet some of us needed that first year to get adjusted.
Now that I experienced a bigger transition (moved to Philly to begin a marketing career) and looking back at other bigger transitions to date (new hockey teams, internships, new high school, college, etc), I created a general transition time for myself moving forward. This is the amount of time I will give every new transition before I make the decision I don’t like it.
That time is 7 months, and I am not moving on before this time period.
I suggest looking back at major transitions and think about how long it took you to become comfortable. Average them out and make that your general time for embracing a transition. Being conscious of this will prevent us from moving onto the next thing too early and missing out on new learning experiences.